Why is this not just another self-help book? I hope you will find a great deal of difference in this book. The idea of laying down guidelines for self-help or steps to take to have a better life is important, and many others have done that. Rather than just outlining problems, this book, where possible, will outline how to carry out the suggestions and guidelines. I have done thirty-five years of counseling with couples, groups, teenagers, and individuals. I have three children and seven grandchildren who have been an integral part of my life. Much of my take on lifes lessons has come from years of experience in these areas. What we do and how we do it matters. That is the premise of this book.