That's ultimately up to him. But you can help him in ways that may surprise you, and in the process you will be sure to ignite a new spark in your relationship. With more than 25 years of counseling experience, Dr. David Hawkins offers insight and practical steps to bring about real change: Believe that your relationship can be much better than it is. Expect real change -- and take real action to achieve it. Uncover the subtle lies and excuses that hold you back and embrace truths that can release you. Identify your true feelings and beliefs, and learn to share them. Replace tactics of manipulation and control with more helpful, biblical solutions.