How I Learnt Loving is a book about searching for love when the usual definitions never seem to fit. It is about feeling out of place in a world that worships a specific type of romance, and slowly realising that love can be so much more. Through memories, philosophy, and raw honesty, this story follows the struggle of growing up believing you are incomplete, only to discover that wholeness does not come from another person, but from the many ways you connect through friendship, care, self-acceptance, and community. It is a book for anyone who has been told their way of loving is wrong, for anyone who has hidden parts of themselves just to be easier for others, and for everyone who has ever wondered whether they are enough. Because love is not one thing. It is plural, it is human, and it is yours.