"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." I believe that is one of the biggest lies ever perpetuated. Words have extreme power to hurt us. Words a person or persons have spoken over you can easily stay with you a lifetime, if you are not willing to do the work to create the words that describe you. This book is designed to be concise. To provide answers as if you could only afford to go to a counselor once but you were given some straight to the point knowledge and advice. Advice about some basic concepts in human nature, interactions, and the consequences of those. Once you have started the process with this book it is up to you to continue it. I highly, deeply, passionately encourage and pray that this is only the beginning for you. Hi, my name is Juanita Kerwin. I am 53 years old mother, wife, daughter, and sister from Seattle Washington. I have been a classroom teacher, vice principal, homeschooling mother and ran the Children's ministry at my church for a brief time. Over the years I have prayed with and mentored many people and noticed many of the same concerns coming up. How do I know if the people I am interacting with are emotionally safe? How do I deal with them? How do I decide who I am and what words describe me? I have such a passion for helping people understand and love themselves and understand why they make the choices they do, so they can live a more emotionally healthier life. Over the years people have suggested that I write a book and one day with Gods prompting, I decided to do it.